4.20.2010

Some {random, unconnected} thoughts on the whole thing

I've had all sorts of thoughts running through my head since finding out we were having twins.  Here are a random sampling for your reading pleasure.
  • First: thank you everyone for your sweet comments of congratulations and support.  I'm glad that so many of you think I'll do great with five kids 5 and under because, believe me, I have my doubts!  I am comforted knowing that this is the Lord's will, and with Him I can do anything.
  • As far as how I'm doing, I'm doing fantastic.  Exhausted, but fantastic.  I don't (knock on wood) get morning sickness, {you can hate me if you want to} so I haven't had that to deal with, but my low back likes to complain, and I've been getting lightheaded more often, which I can only guess is attributed to the pregnancy, as well as more frequent headaches.  But overall, I have little to complain about.
  • I had at least 3 or 4 different people comment to me the other day at Fred Meyer about how I had my hands full (with three).  I just laughed to myself and thought "Little you know!"  I'm not so sure how shopping with 5 is going to go.  My guess is it won't.  I'm going to have to do it in the evening or on the weekend when Tom can be home with at least most of the kids.  The only thing I can think is if we went while Ella was in school, Rico could walk, Louie would sit in the seat in the cart, one baby could be in a car seat in the main basket compartment and the other would have to be carried in the baby bjorn.  But that doesn't leave much (any) room for groceries.  So I guess we'll see.  
  • I am already starting to show.  I've only gained 6-7 lbs (I'm supposed to put on 24 lbs by 24 weeks!) which has been holding steady for a couple of weeks, but a pound or two of that may have been because my exercise has gone way down and my sugar intake has gone up. :)  But I can no longer button my pants, which makes things all sorts of exciting.  I got a couple of BellaBands to help out in that department, and I'm liking, but not loving, them.  
  • I've also been doing some research into the whole twin thing.  I ordered this book from Amazon, and it just got here today, as well as this one which I have not read (despite having three kids already). In the past I've been happy to feed on demand and just work out our own schedule, but these two will need to be coordinated if I want to keep even a sliver of my quickly departing sanity. 
  • Unless Tom gets a job a significant distance from here, we will likely be staying in our current home, which is going to be crowded.  I thought that when I thought we were adding one baby.  But selling right now would require a significant chunk of money or a short sale, neither of which sound attractive (or possible).  And thanks to our neighborhood "laws," we can't rent out our house. 
  • When I first was thinking about "things we'll need to get," there wasn't much on my list.  But it's growing.  We'll need 2 infant car seats (matching, of course), since we threw out the one that we had with the other kids (I got it used when I had Ella, and did not love it), a 2nd crib, possibly a 2nd bassinet (I love having new babies in my room until they've figured out the whole night is for sleeping bit), potentially some new clothes (if they are the same gender), more pacifiers (Caroline is a pro at losing them) and more.
  • But getting a new crib means I need bedding.  When we set up Ella's crib, we went to Babies R Us to find a crib set we liked and struck out.  They were either too girly, too ugly, or too expensive.  I wanted one that I could use for boys or girls, and something fairly plain.  No such luck.  So my angel mother agreed to make the bumper and skirt.  We found a green toile that I loved and had to go to every single Joann's in the area to find enough fabric, paired it with a nice off white, and some ribbon and we were good.  The bumper ties to the crib with an interchangeable ribbon that gets threaded through button holes on the bumper (my own invention).  This allows for some versatility and personality.  Ella had pink and green, Rico was blue and green, and Lou is purple and green.  (The green is permanent, only the secondary color changes.)  My mom even made matching quilts and pillows for each child.  And I LOVE it.  But I'm not sure we could duplicate it since we bought out all of the green fabric we could find.  So that means, either we make/buy a new one that doesn't match (lame!) or we make/buy two new ones that do (also lame). 
  • I don't know if you've heard about Vanishing Twin Syndrome, but naturally, I had to research it and freak myself out.  There isn't much you can do to avoid it, and the causes are usually unknown, but the whole idea is so sad.  I just hope that's not a trial the Lord feels like I need, because really?  it's taken me long enough to get used to the idea of twins, that to reprogram and grieve at the same time would not be so fun.  I did get a kick out of this website, though.

15 comments:

Kristy said...

It doesn't seem like either of your twins will disappear this late in the game, right? At my first (8 week) visit with Kimball, there was evidence that there had been a twin--lucky I didn't know about it beforehand. I didn't feel like I needed to mourn or anything because Kimball himself was basically still just a little alien. :)

Jennifer said...

There is so much to think about. I know I wouldn't be able to sleep with all that going on in my head. It sounds like you're figuring things out. A lot of those were my first thoughts when I found out you were having twins. I'm glad you have them figured out.

Linda said...

An idea for the bedding--have it be coordinated, but not matching. If you chose to have yellow be the secondary color for the green set, for example, make a second set with yellow as the primary color and green as the secondary color. Lisa and I always had matching things, but in different colors. I was pink and Lisa was purple or blue--just a thought.

Linda said...

Oh, and another good sleep book is Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child.

Alisha said...

Oh I remember those days well-- the shock of having twins is crazy. My favorite bullet was about the books. They will be your bibles. As it sounds like you already know, keeping twins on the same schedule is ESSENTIAL to your sanity. There is no way around it. Glad you're feeling well-- lucky duck! Hope that continues & that you have a fantastic pregnancy!

Oh, P.S., instead of getting a 2nd bassinet, do you have a pack n play? I just put both in mine (with the bassinet attachment) at first. Also, mine shared a crib at first too. Some twins share cribs for a long time.

Alisha said...

Oh and my 2 cents about the bedding-- I love the website geenny.com. That's where I bought this baby's bedding for WAY cheap. There's an online coupon code out there somewhere too-- just google it. For the twins, I just bought the carter's brand plush dot bumper pads & coordinating bed skirts. Then target had some sheets that went well. I feel like that saved a lot of money & was cute for b/g matching.

Mike and Tiffany said...

I think once you find out the genders, someone needs to throw you one BIG baby shower! (We'll be up there in June... hint, hint! :))

It sounds like you're pretty organized trying to figure everything out. This would definitely keep me up at night!! It's fun reading all your thoughts about it all though, you'll have to keep doing this periodically, just to give us all some good reading!! :)

I just started reading "Baby Wise" too. I'm about halfway through now. I never read it with my girls because they were pretty easy babies that slept through the night by 6 weeks and ate every 4 hours. Sam has been a different story and I'm exhausted! He's finally starting to sleep through the night, other than waking up for a pacifier a couple times a night!

Anyway, good luck with everything! I have no advice for you!

Valerie said...

Yes, you'll definitely will need a schedule for the 2 of them. We feed every 2 1/2 to 3 hours on the dot. Also make sure you get the nurses to help you nurse them tandem at the hospital. It will save you TONS of time. Both of those books are great!! Although I'm still getting the hang of the Babywise thing. I have the schedule down, it's the sleeping through the night that's hard with twins. Oh and EVERYWHERE I or my husband and I go we get, "you sure have your hands full.."

Sunshine in Seattle said...

Congratulations! You will do great with all the little kiddos. I have never had twins obviously, but my Grandma is an identical twin, and my cousin had two sets of twins. You are a great mom so I know it will be good!

Sunshine in Seattle said...

I'm leaving another comment to let you know that it was Heidi walker who left the previous comment.

The Strain's said...

Oh me, Oh my... you're stressing me out! Wish I was closer to help out! I found that researching all the one and a million syndromes and what not does NOT help. I did it alot in my first trimester - then I got freaked out about Lupus, my mother inlaw has it bad and my husband carries the gene. Aye aye aye... just think of how much fun it will be to get them all matchy matchy :) I think this is why Im scared to get pregnant again. My luck I'd be the one in a million who got pregnant with 6. It would be the death of me. Oh and did you really never get sick with ALL your kids??!?! I didnt get sick with Issac at all, but I heard that they are all different. Another reason why I'm scared to do it again, what if next time I got REALLY sick, I cant be a good mommy when I'm so sick and tired.

Sarah said...

Janelle, when you are ready for a 2nd crib let me know Chase should be done with his at the end of the year or beginning of next year. its a light maple color plain nothing fancy.

Bridget said...

Congrats! I have no idea about twins since all five of mine came one at a time but I can tell you that five kids just means five times more kisses and hugs.

Sara said...

That is a lot to think about! I have complete confidence in you Janelle as does the Lord.

We did the babywise thing with Mason and it worked great! Katie was another story though. You'll figure it out though with the twins. I wish I had some great advice for you but I don't. So glad you pregnancy hasn 't been too bad so far.

Carol said...

I just found your blog, Janelle, so it's time to comment on some old posts (or maybe just this one). That second website mentioned in your last bullet point? Hilarious. Some things that people think...
Anyway, I watched a documentary about vanishing twins when I was pregnant with Willow. It was a really bad idea. there are all sorts of other variations on the idea of it, and they are disturbing enough to think about when you are not expecting a baby. Good luck, my slave forever.